
Are you an Explorer or a Climber?
Not all mountain climbers start from the same place Some people have to travel a long way just to get to the mountain Learning how to be the kind of person who can have a successful long-term intimate relationship is a big mountain to climb. There are many ups and downs along the way and it requires bravery and persistence. We face similar dangers - anyone can be swept off the mountain by some avalanche of external circumstances (illnesses, injuries, losses…). And yet, although we all have to climb the same mountain, the journey is very different for us all. Some people come from wealthy mountain-climbing families. They have athletic genetics and all the right gear. They start their journey being helicoptered in (by secure attachment and healthy differentiation in…